The Perplexing Story of the Iranian Complex

Once upon a time, there were millions of Iranians. And even though most of them felt as though they were better than their fellow men, they still had the need to keep changing both themselves and their lives depending on what they saw that other people had and they didn’t.

We have all seen them, Iranians both abroad and local who westernise their names, looks and demenaour. We’ve seen the men who desire the flashiest, most expensive cars regardless if they need them or not, and the women who desire the men who have them. We’ve seen both men and women of all ages who show their status by initiating conversations with the education and titles they have and, of course, the constant “cheshm o ham cheshmi” that neither rests nor blinks.

But why do we have this? Where does this kambood, or “inferiority complex”come from? Are we trying to compensate for all that we’ve lost since 2000 years ago? Or are we just excessively comparing our lives now to other people’s lives from other parts of the world and feeling that we’re missing out on something? Regardless, something seems to be wrong.

It makes me sad that Iranians 2000 years from now won’t be able to look back at us with the same pride and joy that we have when we look back at our past. If we don’t make an effort to become each other’s and future Iranians’ eftekhar, we’ll pass on nothing else to the next generation but an even stronger “Iranian complex-gene.”

Moreover, a lot of Iranians seem to dislike Arabs because of some of the things that have happened in the past. But in some ways we should actually be admiring them. They stick together no matter what country they emigrate to, but we don’t. They stay the same even after they’ve left, but we change ourselves in our quest to fit in. And whereas they have each other’s back we stab each other in the back. Yet, we keep disliking them – even though we are hurting each other way more than they are hurting us. Maybe we should try to learn  (and teach, if we already have learnt it) these things instead of learning how to perfect all that’s zaher and condemn those who in certain aspects are light years ahead of us.

Because once upon a future time, there’ll be hundreds of millions of Iranians. And even though all of them will feel bad for us for what we have had to go through, they could also be grateful if we just play our cards right. Maybe they too will have a need to change themselves and their lives just like we do, or maybe it won’t even be necessary for them to do so, but ultimately it all depends on what they will see that we have done, and hopefully that will be something that the ones before us didn’t manage to accomplish.

Mahyar

2016-08-05

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